How to Support a Friend or Family Member During Pregnancy

Pregnancy is a big chapter in someone’s life—exciting, sometimes overwhelming, and always filled with change. If someone you care about is expecting, you might wonder how best to help. Good news: Even simple gestures can make a huge difference! Here’s how you can offer meaningful support to a pregnant friend or family member.

1. Listen—Really Listen

Sometimes, the best support is just being there to listen. Pregnancy brings a roller coaster of emotions, and your loved one may want to talk (or vent!) about everything from doctor visits to morning sickness.

• Be present: Put away your phone, make eye contact, and let them share what’s on their mind.

• Resist advice mode: Unless they ask, don’t rush to give solutions—just let them talk.

2. Offer Practical Help

Pregnancy can be physically demanding. Everyday tasks might suddenly feel a lot harder.Some thoughtful ways to pitch in:

• Run errands or offer rides to appointments

• Cook a meal or drop off groceries

• Help with chores like laundry, dishes, or pet care

• Watch older kids so your friend can rest

Don’t wait for them to ask—specific offers are often appreciated! (“I’m making soup tonight. Can I drop some off for you?”)

3. Respect Their Choices

Every pregnancy is unique, and so are the decisions people make about their care, birth plan, and baby. Show respect by:

• Not judging food, lifestyle, or medical choices

• Avoiding unsolicited advice

• Supporting their decisions, even if they’re different from what you’d choose

4. Check In Regularly

A simple “Thinking of you!” text, call, or message goes a long way, especially if you’re not nearby. Ask how they’re doing and what they need. Sometimes, just knowing someone cares is a huge comfort.

5. Celebrate the Milestones

Join in the joy of baby showers, gender reveals, or sharing the first ultrasound photo.Even small celebrations—like a congratulatory card or a little “just for you” treat—can brighten their day and make them feel special.

6. Be Sensitive to Their Experience

Not every pregnancy is smooth sailing. Be gentle if your friend is facing tough symptoms, worries, or complications.

• Offer empathy, not comparisons (“My pregnancy was much easier/harder…”)

• Avoid making jokes about body changes or discomfort unless they do first

7. Support Their Mental Health

If you notice signs of anxiety or sadness, encourage your loved one to talk to their doctor. Pregnancy can bring up unexpected emotions, and mental health matters just as much as physical health.

8. Keep Supporting After the Baby Arrives

The need for help doesn’t end at birth!

• Offer to bring meals, help with errands, or simply give them adult company in the early weeks.

• Remember, sometimes the best gift is your continued friendship and support.

Being there for someone during pregnancy isn’t about grand gestures—it’s about showing up with kindness, respect, and practical help. However you’re able to support, your care will be remembered long after the baby arrives.